A friendly and enlightening guide for helping parents move their kids - and their whole family - past harmful perfectionism. Perfectionism is not about doing our best. It's not about the struggle for excellence or the healthy striving for high goals. Perfectionism is about believing that if we can just do something perfectly, other people will love and accept us - and if we can't, we'll never be good enough. That belief is a burden that can negatively affect all areas of a person's life. Fortunately, parents who recognize perfectionist patterns in themselves, in their kids, or in their families as a whole can make positive changes that will enrich their children's lives and their own. In this positive, practical book, psychologist Tom Greenspon explains perfectionism, where it comes from, and what parents can do about it. In addition, parents who struggle with their own perfectionism - and whose perfectionism takes a toll on the family - will find help for themselves within these pages.